Start the day
Write down 10 new Blessings and why you are grateful for them. Read each one repeating “thank you, thank you, thank you“, feeling gratitude for each one.
Challenging or broken relationships
When you harbor resentment, ill-feeling or bitterness for another person you are feeling anything but gratitude for that person. This means that instead of adding to the positive side of your Gratitude scale, you are adding to the negative side of the scale.
Whether it is your partner, an ex-spouse, a parent, ex-friend, work colleague, neighbor, family member, someone from your past, someone who was your friend, someone who broke your heart or hurt you badly, a person who caused hurt to someone you cared about; having bad feelings towards that person is harming you and limiting the goodness in your life because you are not feeling grateful.
Today will show you how to use Gratitude to eliminate those bad feelings, heal you, and in turn increase your Gratitude energy. Which, as we know now, will attract more into your life for which to be grateful.
Choose a difficult relationship with a person for whom you know you bear resentment, feel bitterness or anger towards, blame for something or really dislike. Make a list of 10 things for which you are grateful to that person. This might seem difficult at first but remember, you are becoming very good at finding things to be grateful for.
- Were there good experiences before the relationship soured?
- Did the experience with that person teach you any valuable life lessons?
- Did or does that person have any good qualities for which you can be grateful?
- Has the person done anything good for you or someone you care about?
As you think of something to be grateful for, write your thanks as if speaking to that person.
…..name ……., I am grateful for …….what……..
Here are some examples.
- John, I am grateful for the fun times we had when we were growing up.
- Dad, I am grateful that you worked so hard to keep our family clothed and fed.
- Julie, I am grateful for our time together. Though we broke up I learned a lot about myself and I am a better person today because of that.
In order to get to a point where you no longer have bad feelings towards the person you might need to repeat this practice over a few days. You will know and feel when the ill-feeling has left you.
If you are using this practice on a current relationship, that relationship will improve. If you are focusing on a past relationship, you will feel happier and the effects will also be felt in your current relationships.
You are making gratitude an important part of your relationships and by doing so attracting good into your relationships.
Use this practice any time in the future for any relationship which is becoming difficult or challenging and you will prevent the situation from becoming worse and you will heal the relationship.
End the day
When you go to bed tonight hold your Magic Rock in your hand. Close your fingers around it and feel it. Think of all the good things that have happened today. Choose the best good thing that happened and, feeling as grateful as you can, say “thank you, thank you, thank you“.
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Namasté
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